tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post2115857740498591871..comments2023-09-10T07:52:40.405-07:00Comments on Blues of a Waxwing: London Bridge is Burning DownBlueshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14014949557018388159noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-12146903875910625522009-07-01T12:47:24.478-07:002009-07-01T12:47:24.478-07:00It is hard to see that a friendship that was once ...It is hard to see that a friendship that was once there is not there anymore due to time, experience and just changes we made with ourselves. I have a hard time letting go of flimsy bridges myself. I always feel bad and start asking myself, damn what's wrong with me? or like you, I think I'm just being an asshole. Oh well. I think its just best to walk away and remember it fondly. :)LadyHAHAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05091191050470228928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-46040673044971156732009-07-01T10:47:18.476-07:002009-07-01T10:47:18.476-07:00Rassles said it better than I could, the x/y thing...Rassles said it better than I could, the x/y thing. Blue, this was a great metaphor-loved it. Friendships like coupledoms can converge or diverge, couples have more at stake and thus I think and thus make a greater effort to stay connected and find common ground. I don't mind friends who are different than me but I find the older I get the more I enjoy time with people who feel similarly philosophically. For me seeing some old friends was akin to going back to visit the old house I grew up in--everything looks smaller and less than you remembered it. Thank god for the few good ones we hang on to.formerly funhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04915882376165190052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-21205771337976397262009-06-30T17:25:37.430-07:002009-06-30T17:25:37.430-07:00Just missed my 20th high school reunion-- I wonder...Just missed my 20th high school reunion-- I wonder why... probably because anyone I wanted to actually see I would-- don't need a cheesy reunion to do it. <br /><br />And I do have some friends who I can see every few years, pick right up like it's was yesterday and actually enjoy it-- those are my buds.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16551259120717710718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-37135015994054814452009-06-30T12:38:03.027-07:002009-06-30T12:38:03.027-07:00If you're an asshole, then so am I. You know, ...If you're an asshole, then so am I. You know, there are some people that you can see once every 10 years and it's more like 10 minutes...you pick up right where you left off. Then there are those people you reconnect with only to discover that you probably never really liked them in the first place, probably because you were drunk. It's like those people on Facebook with 800 friends...total bullshit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-75992012850062838532009-06-27T03:43:45.538-07:002009-06-27T03:43:45.538-07:00This is one city which I'd die to visit....hav...This is one city which I'd die to visit....have cancelled trips to the Smoke thrice at the very last minute (thanks to work) and more recently because the Brit High Commission took 3 months to give me a tourist visa. Bah. It's so much easier to get a Singapore visa.Mister Crowleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09410688259466030384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-47844336240606135902009-06-26T13:19:13.758-07:002009-06-26T13:19:13.758-07:00There are some bridges which I wish I'd burnt ...There are some bridges which I wish I'd burnt years ealier to prevent them caving in while I was trying to cross them, leaving me close to drowning. Maybe if I'd been able to burn those bloody dodgy bridges earlier I wouldn't be such a bitter and cynical person who burns a bridge when it simply needs a paint job, or a rusty nail replaced. I've even had old bridges call me up and accuse me of being too quick to burn them...wait, where is this going, I'm losing the metaphor. <br /><br />I frequently stop making any effort with acquaintances who talk total crap and make me want to knock myself out on the nearest hard surface. With friends though, I have found that sometimes a clash of personality is just an age thing, a moment in time, if they are not giving up on the friendship then I don't. I take being let down by people far more seriously, I can handle friends who might think differently to me, I can't handle friends who don't care about anyone but themselves. Wow, ramble, ramble.Tehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14575302516614902910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-72906547138324219272009-06-26T05:56:16.856-07:002009-06-26T05:56:16.856-07:00I know it's not the point of the post, but I l...I know it's not the point of the post, but I love the way you can take one metaphor and stay in it for the entire post. And make it work.<br /><br />Friends? Sometimes the ones you've written off surprise you years later.Denisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-67488560665446156602009-06-24T13:47:21.928-07:002009-06-24T13:47:21.928-07:00I'm not much of a bridge burner: it's too ...I'm not much of a bridge burner: it's too active for me. I prefer to just let them decay naturally and fall into disuse.Gypsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14327359141716141220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-60103764414666930592009-06-22T20:23:00.961-07:002009-06-22T20:23:00.961-07:00It totally doesn't make you an asshole, it mak...It totally doesn't make you an asshole, it makes you savvy to who you are now and what you want out of a relationship. When you want the bullshit? You know where to go. You don't want it? Cross elsewhere. It's all about the roadmaps of your life. You just updated the legend, that's all.Not Afraid to Use Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11622378209801018927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-83818337679562642682009-06-22T15:17:55.470-07:002009-06-22T15:17:55.470-07:00You're such a dick.
Completely kidding, bec...You're such a dick. <br /><br />Completely kidding, because I definitely understand, and I have massive guilt complexes about it. Especially the friends that never did anything "wrong." It's just that their lives like, operate on a Y-axis, and I'm on the X-axis, and it really only makes sense that we crossed once and continued on our way instead of trying to force a friendship out of obligation rather than necessity.Rassleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12370070146085209687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-36645348916326516022009-06-22T10:41:35.014-07:002009-06-22T10:41:35.014-07:00I met an old friend in London, the singer from the...I met an old friend in London, the singer from the band. I actually only called him once I got there because I was so unsure about meeting him. If we wanted to stay in touch we would have stayed in touch during those last 10 years, right?<br /><br />So we went out drinking and I realized how important this connection was to me. It'll probably be another 10 years before we see each other again, but he'll always be in my mind because even though our paths are different, we are very similar. Before he left, I told him that smart people find their place in the world and that's where they stay, but him and I are the kind of people who think that if we're comfortable then we must be doing something wrong. <br /><br />Sorry I hijacked your post.People in the Sunhttp://www.peopleinthesun.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-73117355986619105882009-06-21T21:14:39.537-07:002009-06-21T21:14:39.537-07:00Nope. Makes you one of my favorite bloggers.Nope. Makes you one of my favorite bloggers.A Free Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01038930031019179647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-34964717509581207002009-06-20T20:03:57.216-07:002009-06-20T20:03:57.216-07:00You’re right about The Daily Smoke. Her address is...You’re right about The Daily Smoke. Her address is where I turn until I can get back for a visit.<br /><br />You’re wrong about being an asshole. This post was better than a travelogue. It’s the same hot coals we all walk over. In my mind, you are correct to keep those bridges intact. For now.The Unbearable Banishmenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704208968630911021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-44423859268255841402009-06-20T06:55:17.060-07:002009-06-20T06:55:17.060-07:00Not an asshole! Arsehole! And not that either! ...Not an asshole! Arsehole! And not that either! I don't have the guts to burn those bridges that should be burnt. But enough time has passed now that any of those kind of bridges are pretty well fallen down all on their own accord. Thanks for the link. Made me all giddy and blushed. xx, eElliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09130776138284979286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-59153493362987596342009-06-19T18:23:47.968-07:002009-06-19T18:23:47.968-07:00Nah, it doesn't make you an asshole. You'...Nah, it doesn't make you an asshole. You're being real and honest and it's a beautiful thing. This post is stunning. I have friends, old friends, that I can't remember why I ever liked or wanted to be around. But I think it's best to keep the bridges in tact. Even if it's just to not hurt people's feelings, you know?Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11098013076632075762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-34782794900597843132009-06-19T15:40:36.952-07:002009-06-19T15:40:36.952-07:00I used to either burn the bridges down or marry th...I used to either burn the bridges down or marry the ones I should have. <br />That's how I ended up divorced twice and hanging around with a bunch of friends I'd decided were assholes like, 15 years prior.<br />Now? I just say whatever and let the chips fall where they may. Is that the middle ground?<br />I think this post is beautiful and does NOT make you an asshole.<br />Want me to say naughty things to your dishwasher to make you feel better?Mongolian Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18277544884313115003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-72345804337419730552009-06-19T10:33:25.523-07:002009-06-19T10:33:25.523-07:00I'm not a torcher either, I do the same, I wal...I'm not a torcher either, I do the same, I walk away not saying what I wanted to, but just never go back.Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044403947730363259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-28362042402017695382009-06-18T22:28:28.756-07:002009-06-18T22:28:28.756-07:00That was a rather beautiful post.
I always feel...That was a rather beautiful post. <br /><br />I always feel better after I've torched one of the flimsy ass bridges. Not immediately afterward, but once the proverbial smoke clears, it has always been the right decision.Ginnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02869320044142328707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-36758846943253847562009-06-18T20:10:38.876-07:002009-06-18T20:10:38.876-07:00oh you are so NOT an assholeoh you are so NOT an assholeflutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-83769039063435721912009-06-18T19:24:22.995-07:002009-06-18T19:24:22.995-07:00Actually, I think it makes you an awesome writer.Actually, I think it makes you an awesome writer.maggie, dammithttp://okayfinedammit.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-48888387265457952162009-06-18T15:51:42.761-07:002009-06-18T15:51:42.761-07:00I have a hard time burning bridges too. Sometimes...I have a hard time burning bridges too. Sometimes you don't cross them for a while, then you discover in 10 more years you have everything in common in common again~Mountain Lover~https://www.blogger.com/profile/17691252732393167228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5471917887376264974.post-58458041340140924622009-06-18T14:11:57.940-07:002009-06-18T14:11:57.940-07:00if only we could all remain frozen in time... or a...if only we could all remain frozen in time... or at least, if only *everyone else* would. being far away from people means the contrasts between periodic snapshots are sometimes that much starker.<br /><br />allowing some things to fall by the wayside is often the kinder choice. <br /><br />it still sucks, though. i'm sorry.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00096399788929322183noreply@blogger.com